January 5th, 2016
I have been thinking about this word for a long, long, long time. I have analyzed this word until I am blue in the face.
How often do we make an assumption that is wrong? How often do we make an assumption that is right? When we see a person who smiles, holds themselves well and looks like they have the world in their hands, do we assume their happy? When we see someone who has their head down, their posture is slumped and they look sad, do we assume their not happy.
However, looks are deceiving and sometimes the most beautiful people are carrying burdens so deep that not even the most compassionate person on earth would ever understand. Sometimes the person who looks misunderstood, backward and unhappy, may just be having a bad day, and for the most part that person is so content with life that it’s scarey.
How often to we ask someone, are you happy? Are you ok? Is their anything I can do to ease your burden? Yet, we assume because that person looks the part, that they are truly happy.
When my daughter entered the MTC, it was a very difficult day. A lot of assumptions were made. She was nervous, scared, afraid, alone, leaving her family for 18 months. It was absolutely brutal.
When she met her companion, she assumed because she was pretty, skinny, and had a beautiful family that her life was perfect. Little did she know that her life has been hard too. It wasn’t easy for her for that first week or two. It took a lot of time for walls to come down, for the spirit to intervene and for trust to be built.
I told my daughter to love her companion. I told her to build her up and compliment her. I tried to explain that sometimes when someone doesn’t take the time to ask questions, they make very false assumptions.
I know that false assumptions are made about me every day. Yet the one thing I do know is that the only opinion that matters is God’s. He doesn’t have to assume anything about me. I am his daughter. He knows my thoughts, my actions and the true desires of my heart. His opinion is the only one that matters and he doesn’t make assumptions about me. He knows me, he loves me and I have a relationship with Him. It’s pretty amazing to know that God doesn’t have to assume anything about me. He already knows who I am and what I truly hope to be. He really is the only one I need to please at the end of the day. I am not accountable for the wrong assumptions that are made about me, but I am responsible if I make the wrong assumptions about others. The best thing to do if we don’t know the answers, is to see the good in everyone, ask the right questions and love unconditionally. We will never please everyone, their are people who will always see the negetive, and false judgements are always going to be made. Mother Teresa said: If were too busy judging someone, we have no time to love them. So for now, I choose to look less closely, ask more questions and listen with my heart. If someone makes the wrong assumption about me, they probably haven’t taken the time to really get to know me. I truly do want to see the best in others, and a wrong assumption is just an uneducated guess.